It is said that, to carry the Buddhist’s teachings to Tibet, the Indian Lama Atiśa assembled an entourage of monks and support staff.  When his group convened to begin their trek, Atiśa noticed that the cook, I’ll call Ben, was not there.  When the Master inquired regarding the cook’s absence, he was advised, in addition to being a mediocre chef, Ben was very hard to get along with and no one liked him

Atiśa responded, in essence, “Oh Ben must come with us.  I need him to teach me patience.”

What or who are my and your Bens?  Cherish them.